Two Weddings and a Funeral
I had many plans for this year. Looking back, I’d say I achieved all the plans that depended on me. I got my car, got an apartment and married my sweetheart of many years.
However, it wasn’t all a bed of roses; it was a year filled with pain, disappointment and a lot of lessons for the future.
“The struggles you had to go through in these mid life formative years are the stuff men are made of. Congratulations bro.” — These were the exact comments Efe made on the review I wrote last year. Those struggles continued a lot more this year. It was like it was ‘me’ against the world a lot of times but I’m grateful for family and a number of friends that were just a phone call away.
My sister and I got married within one month of each other (August and September) this year. Looking back, I still don’t understand how we were able to pull this feat off seeing that we had less than 3 months to plan hers. Once again, God showed up in his own amazing way.
Planning my wedding wasn’t a walk in the park though but it was a lot easier because of my darling wife.
You see all those people that tell you not to worry when you’re planning weddings and stuff, I learnt during this time that they are actually the ones you should make your plans without considering their input. I had a lot of disappointments along the way. I struggled with getting a reasonable apartment in this Lagos (story for another day). Somehow, lines fell for me (For US) in pleasant places. At critical times, God showed up in the most amazing ways.
Both weddings were splendid. Tomorrow is my 3rd month anniversary! I’m enjoying everyday with my wife (including the minor disagreements married life brings along) and I’m looking forward to forever with this lovely gift from God.
Death is the cruelest visitor anyone can have especially when one can’t see it coming in any way. Picking up my phone on a Sunday morning while preparing for Church and seeing a lot of missed calls from my fiancé, the last thing I expected was to hear that her brother, who we talked about just the night before was dead. No terminal illness, No accident, he just went to have a nap and never woke up. Nothing prepares a man to deal with such issues, not even the fact that I’d also lost a younger brother about 12 years ago. The ugly incident happened 3 months to our wedding, few weeks to her sister’s law school exam and we all had to wipe our tears and continue with life the way he would have wanted us to. We resolved to continue with the wedding as scheduled and To God be the Glory, her sister also passed her law school exam, even making a 2-1 in the process. God just shows up in his own way. Sanmi, continue to rest in peace.
Professionally, this year didn’t pan out the way I planned it or expected it to go. I learnt a lot of valuable lessons along the way. I hope to apply the lessons I learnt this year to be better and to learn to be more organized and disciplined. And by the way, I got a raise too. It wasn’t so significant but sometimes, it’s the thought that someone thinks you’re doing a great job that counts. Right?
2014 was the year I made big decisions and made a big transition into family life. It was a rough year with its share of laughter, sorrow and in-betweens. I’m grateful for life, for family and for Friends that understand me and are there for me when I call.
I’m grateful for my wife, the woman who stood by me all these years, right from 2001 while we were just in SS 2, through my time in university in Ife while she studied medicine in Lagos, to my time in Paris for my masters. She gets me like no other, makes me laugh like no other and completes me in every way.
I’m grateful to God, the father of lights, in whom there is neither variableness nor shadow of turning. I’ve not maintained the communion you want with me this year. I pray for grace and strength to draw closer to you in 2015 and beyond. Here’s to 2015, the year of our establishment, our Year.
Merci a Dieu.
This melted my heart. Prosper, brother Wale. Fly!