When I reflect on 2018 in light of my personal experiences, I can only describe it as a very interesting year. Days flew by so fast that if I don’t think hard about the events of the year, I don’t remember a lot. This could also be partly my fault. I effortlessly forget details—one primary reason I never win arguments as I forget what has been said or done that I need to refer to.
A friend suggested recently that this is deliberate, that I choose not to remember details because I am a dreamer.
Dreamer: a person who spends a lot of time thinking about or planning enjoyable events that are not likely to happen.
I actually dream a lot. I have fantasised about being on Forbes list (this will happen, amen!) and I have imagined carrying my twin babies.
At the start of the year, I made a list as I have done every year for the last five years. This year, I wanted to live for myself and all that I love. In 2017, I had focused on everything but myself and this took so much from me emotionally. I deliberately wanted this to change in 2018.
God, I want to kick off all these business ideas I have in my head
This happened! I started every business idea I had going into the New Year. I am definitely not where I want to be with these businesses, but I am grateful I started them. I wrote a proposal for one of my businesses and got funding. This came with a huge sense of fulfillment; you never know the doors that will open if you keep knocking.
Apparently, I did not know I also had a hair and “meat-pie” business until this year. A client called one morning and said, “where is your shop?” So, this hair thing is serious like this? I am grateful for blessed hands and YouTube.
I want to see at least four new places this year
I love travelling. I do not mind how far I have to travel as long as I can to stretch my long legs and there is no stench coming from the toilet like those national express buses. Of the five new places I visited, Barcelona stands out. My trip to Barcelona was solo. The city is beautiful, and it is now top two on my list of favourite destinations.
I need to be more patient and learn not to respond to every situation
I can imagine someone laughing at me and saying “let’s see how far she goes” as I wrote this point. To be honest, I think I have done well in this regard. I walked out of a bad situation that, I guess, did not escalate uncontrollably because I was quiet. Till this day, I don’t know for sure why I didn’t respond. The temptation to talk back, to have the last voice, is always real. But what’s the point when it is fruitless?
Pass my PhD transfer examination
I passed this transfer examination earlier in the year. It is interesting how we think whatever we are going through now is the worst. With every next level is a new (in many cases greater) challenge. My PhD journey has stretched me in many ways words cannot describe. I have considered dropping out many times this year but the fighter in me will not—money and time cannot go to waste. I really want this, and I enjoy my research, especially when I get results and my supervisors applaud me for doing a good job. I will keep pushing and writing. 2019 is the year when the PhD is bagged anyway, the end is nigh.
A closer relationship with God
Blessed is the one
who does not walk in step with the wicked
or stand in the way that sinners take
or sit in the company of mockers,
but whose delight is in the law of the Lord,
and who meditates on his law day and night.
That person is like a tree planted by streams of water,
which yields its fruit in season
and whose leaf does not wither
whatever they do prospers.
Psalm 1:1-3 encapsulates this aspect of my 2018. It is definitely not a walk in the park—a lot of pruning and chastising but I am grateful for an unwavering love, a listening and doting Father.
My 2018 highlight has to be constantly feeling so young; every time I had to write my age, or someone asked what my age is, I literally had to do a quick subtraction (2018- year of birth). I feel at least five years younger than my current age. I was starting to get worried until I found a research that shows that feeling younger than one’s actual age translates to a healthy brain age. Anyone else feels this way? #teamforeveryoung.
Overall, 2018 has been a year of growth, a year of trying new things, a year of loving and pampering myself, a year of deliberate living.
Cheers to 2019: the year of completion, immense growth and of course many dreams.